Why do people compare themselves with others? I’d be foolish to keep score on something that doesn’t matter.
Everyone has unique needs for different destinies.
Comparing myself to anyone else is like an apple looking at an orange and saying, “I’m better because I’m an apple” or “I’m worse because I’m not an orange.” I might like apples better, but that doesn’t make the orange worthless.
To have value, I need to fulfill my unique purpose.
The only comparison I care to make is to look at who I am and who God wants me to be. I might compare what I’m doing with what I think God wants me to do. Problem is, I’m not always sure what that is. I like what John wrote in his letter. I don’t know what I will be, but the better I know the Lord, the more I will be like him (1 John 3:2).
Saying the past should have been better is an argument against reality.
Sometimes in the morning, I reflect on yesterday and ask how that compares with what I could have done. In that reflection, I can either be kind or cruel to myself. I can say, “You knew better,” or “You should have done better,” but those judgments are made in hindsight. If I had really known better, I would have done better. So then my question is, “Why didn’t I know yesterday what I can see right now?”
Because I have many more questions than answers, I have to pray a lot.
If I make comparisons based on what I think is best, what are my odds of being right? I don’t like to gamble with a guess. It isn’t necessary. I can take one step at a time as God leads. Then I don’t have to worry about the outcome. By focusing on what is, to the best of my knowledge, most pleasing to the Lord, I don’t have to make comparisons.
Everything will be all right.
Because I know the Lord is with me, walking through the fire is a lot better than burning myself up with comparisons.
We dare not be like others who brag about what they say and do, ranking themselves by using themselves as a standard for greatness, which isn’t very smart. — 2 Corinthians 10:12